Your communication

How do you communicate with yourself?

The words we say to ourselves on an ongoing basis can have a direct impact on our current circumstances.

The tone of these words could be an indicator of our mood, feelings and mental state.

Over the years, one thing I finally recognized was there was a specific way I was communicating
with myself. I realized I had been essentially bullying myself based on the words, negativity, and
tone I used.

Here are some journal entries I wrote that are related to my communication with myself.

JOURNAL ENTRY NOVEMBER 23, 2011
I am a fake. I am a phony. My ego has run my life for as long as I can remember. I am
virtually sleepwalking through the days. I want what Eckhart Tolle & Neale Donald Walsch
have. I want the understanding & the being.

JOURNAL ENTRY NOVEMBER 2011
Me right now. I am a people pleaser. A coward. boring. I worry a lot. I am no fun. I have no
interests. I am not exciting to be around. I am in the wrong profession. I love being a Dad. I
have no opinion. I follow versus lead. I don’t have friends. I am invisible. I am not memorable.
I am quiet. I am lost. I worry about what others think. I need help. I have so much. I have a
lovely family.

Exercise for You

How do you communicate with yourself? List the words you use. Is the tone, critical, inspiring,
positive, loving?
Spend throughout the day noticing how you are communicating with yourself.
Is this method of communicating moving you closer to or further away from your goal?
How come?
What is one thing you would change to improve the way you communicate with yourself?

Exercise for Your Team or Group

How does your team or group communicate with the other members of the team? List the words
people use. Is the tone, critical, inspiring, positive, loving?
Is this method of communicating moving the team closer to or further away from its goal?
How come?
What is one thing your team would change to improve the way you communicate with each other?